Thank you for reading, there are a few things to note here. One of those is that I clearly expressed my thoughts and viewpoint and made sure to clarify that I do not speak for all trans women. I do not see the contradictions that you say that are there in the next paragraph.
I do not put the validity of my womanhood into the hands of others because it is not anyone else's to define. Being Trans and being a woman is not clear cut, A or B, it. is multidimensional. Me acknowleding that I will never be cis and that I love being Trans isn't contradicted because of the following paragraph. I am acknowledging that I am never going to be cis, it is not my goal to be cis and that I and I alone define my own transness.
I do not deal with men. I do not date them, I do not associate with them on a regular basis. Passing is a term that is deeply rooted in misogyny. If women are going around questioning each others womanhood based on certain features or ideas of what women should be; it is important to look at the root. CisHet men have decided what an ideal woman looks like. They have decided how a woman is to look, behave, talk, etc. Women cis and trans have been held to unrealistic standards created by CisHet men and therefore have judged based off of those. If men never created the standard, no woman would judge based off of it.
I believe that it is more than anatomy that goes into it. I believe that we are a direct challenge to society's view of what it means to be a woman. If you see otherwise, that is fine. This is a editorial.