Our pride is not for the CisHet ran and backed companies to make money off of, Our pride is for us and it is up to us to take it back.

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I came out at a time when the bodies of Black Trans Women were being brutalized, murdered, and found at record numbers. Safety was not something that was on the table for me. I watched as articles and legislation rooted in Anti Trans stances be introduced and promoted in ways that I have never seen before. I watched as our rights to things such as Housing, Employment, and Healthcare were argued as things that we did not deserve and should be granted. This level of dehumanization was agreed on by those who had never and would never have to question…


The bodies pile up and the hate does not go away, I see that this fight is ours and is one that we will win

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It was two weeks ago when I was messaged on Instagram by someone who was unhappy with me continuously focusing on Trans violence. It was two weeks ago that I was told that these horrors continue to happen because I choose to highlight them. I never understood the act of criticizing anyone that is “adding fuel to the fire” and choosing to overlook the fact that the fire had already been set. I was in no way surprised when I received this message. Crimes against us have always been justified by those who share the same hateful beliefs that the…


“The strange thing about writing is that we all do it and we do it for different reasons. Some do it to release whatever it is that they are feeling and want to let go of. Some do it because they just want to be heard and then there are some who do it to understand why it is that they do it, or anything at all.”

I always knew that I wanted to be a writer or that being a writer was in the cards for me. It was the only thing that I knew was certain, outside of…


If we are ever going to get any sort of change, it is important to know that we do not need to die in order for an injustice to be acknowledged

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It is my hope that allies do better than #transwomenarewomen and #blacklivesmatter when it comes to raising awareness. I hope that we get to the point where a actual conversation is had about more than what has been highlighted in current and past conversations.

Raising awareness is something that we want those who do not experience what we do, to do. It is considered a way for our stories, bodies and the way that we have to exist in it to gain visibility. However, it seems to me that there is nothing that has followed this and our critiques about…


My dating experience wasn’t (and isn’t) what it should be. Maybe that’s why love doesn’t seem to exist in my world.

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You are told how life works when you are young. It’s one of the things that I miss about being a child: not having to figure these things out on my own. Everything sounds easier when you’re young. Love, perhaps, sounds the easiest. You are told how you will go to college, meet someone, fall in love, get married, start a family, and live happily ever after. You watch movies that show the same stories that you’ve been told. The combination of the two solidifies the stories as facts. Sometimes, it really is this easy for people.

And then there…


I hope you realize why it’s important to do more than hashtag “trans women are women.”

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“We all want to exist, but some of us don’t deserve to!” is what a man shouted at me through my phone screen. I have only heard about Clubhouse through random twitter threads that I came across on nights where I should have and wished that I would have done more sleeping. What drew me to Clubhouse was the exclusivity appeal of it. When something is “invite only” and you suddenly get an invitation, something inside of you feels seen, good enough.

I was on this app and inside of a chat room called “Why is the alphabet mafia problematic?”…


The goal should be to look like you, to like who you see in the mirror and that should not be based on how others think that you should look

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What does it mean to be a trans woman? I cannot answer this for all because to answer for all would imply that it’s cut and dry, easy to explain and would most of all mean that there is only one meaning. I cannot answer this for all, I cannot answer it for myself sometimes but what I can do is speak from my experience and tell you what it is not.

When I first came out as transgender, the first thing that I did was search for support groups. Isn’t that the logical thing to do? I thought so…


The government is against us; the allies are not enraged and doing enough, we have been left here to fight alone

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I have stared at the blank computer screen, unsure of what to write or how to write it. I watched as my fingers trembled, felt my heart race as minutes passed. I am currently sitting with more questions than answers and the answers that are being given are not any help. I am unsure about how this will end for us. I am unsure if we, the transgender citizens here in the states will obtain some sort of victory or if we will all die trying. …


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It has been over a year since I have seen the smile of a stranger. This is something that troubles me and intrigues me at the same time. It is the little things that we take for granted and miss the most. I don’t know why something has to no longer be accessible to us in order to notice it’s abscence. Once you do notice it, it seems to be all that you can think about. …


The news that DMX passing away has flooded my timeline on every social media website. It cannot be avoided even when I stay offline because my phone has also been bombarded with messages about his death. Triggered and Bitter are two words that have been assigned to me when discussing my feelings about DMX and you know what? You’re goddamn right I am both of those.

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As everyone today has decided to remember DMX for their favorite songs and lyrics, the “good” that he has done as some will put it. Unlike them, I cannot overlook and/or forget the fact…

Takoda Patterson

She/Her• 🏳️‍⚧️/🏳️‍🌈 • Author of “Nothing Really Happens” • Podcast Host • Multifaceted Artist • Polyamorous Cool Girl™️ : Reading Goal 18/24📚

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